Falling for an Older Woman

Dear Adam;

I am 26 years old and I have been spending a lot of time with a woman who is ten years older than I am. She is single and really attractive. I think I might be falling in love with her. I told her that I liked her and she said that she liked me too. All the signs are saying that she is interested in a relationship. However, I am a little apprehensive about getting into a relationship with a woman so much older than me. First, I want to have children and she is getting to the age where it will be more difficult to concieve and have a baby. Second, isn't the guy supposed to be the oldest? I know it is the 21st century and all, but I am nervous about it. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Mark W.

Dear Mark W.,

Thank you for your question. It sounds like you are in a wonderful place! Nevermind, for a moment, that she is 36... she is a woman and you are a man and you are in love. What a wonderful place and I hope you are able to savor the flavor of new love!

In the long run of things, if you really love this woman then age won't matter as much. I have struggled with the idea of not being able to have children myself, and I too really want to have children. However, you must remember that there is more than biology to being a father. The options are really wide open.

And 36 is not old! It is less and less old the closer I get to it!

Seize the day and savor the flavor of love... chances are when you are old and gray or dead and gone you won't regret having taken the chance, but you will probably very likely regret not even trying to be in a relationship with this woman. Life's too short to think so hard. First, date her and tell her you love her and then worry about having kids with her.

Good luck!

yours,

adam