This is another article I wrote for my Ask Adam Column for the SEMI, the school newspaper at my seminary. I got in trouble for calling women at the seminary "girls" and was scolded several times so I thought I'd write this as penance.
Ask Adam:
Women, Not Girls!
Dear Adam;
I really have problems with men who refer to women as “girls” or “chicks” or some other derogatory name. We are not “girls.” We are women. I think a lot of the men are intimidated by women with a calling. What do you think?
Truly,
Marla S.
Dear Marla;
Thank you for your comment. I agree. I would recommend letting men know when you are offended. One of the most common reasons for hurt feelings and arguments is miscommunication. The number one way you can help men become more understanding of women’s needs is to be clear about what offends you. Don’t assume they get it because they might not.
I do think women with a calling or direction in their lives intimidate some men. However, these men usually are having problems discerning their own calling and places in this world. It is more about them and less about you. I am glad you are here.
Yours,
Adam
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(This is not really James, I'm using my husband's Gmail account)
I kind of agree with Marla; I think that now that I am over 30, "Girls" is more desirable than, say, 10 years ago, however, I don't like, and have never liked being referred to as "Guys."
Why is it that in a mixed group, or worse yet, in a group of all women, must someone always say, "hey guys?" How many groups of guys have been haning around together and someone addresses the crowd as, "hey ladies!" Okay, someone BESIDES the high school coach.
It is probably an innoccuous term to most, but it has always been a peeve of mine!
Thanks,
Rebecca Reece
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